When I became a mom for the first time, everything felt brand new — exciting, overwhelming, and definitely a learning curve. Now, three kids later, I find myself reflecting on just how much I’ve grown through motherhood, and how different the experience has been with each child.
So if you’re a new mama, a second-time mama, or just curious about life with three — here’s what I’ve noticed along the way.
Baby #1: Everything Was New (and Carefully Monitored)
With my first, everything was done by the book. I read all the articles, asked all the questions, and took all the precautions. I was extra careful with everything — from what he ate to what he watched. Believe it or not, my oldest didn’t have any candy until he turned three. Seriously. No lollipops, chocolates, or gummy bears. Just wholesome snacks and lots of spoon-fed meals.
And honestly? It was the easiest to keep him away from electronics too. When you only have one child, you have more control over the environment, and the discipline feels doable.
Baby #2: Learning to Let Go (Just a Little)
With my second, I already had some experience under my belt — but now I was juggling two. The energy shifted. I was still trying to do things “right,” but I had more grace with myself. I stopped buying every single toy and started asking, “Do we really need this?”
Feeding time? It was less about spoon-feeding every bite and more about handing over the spoon and saying, “Okay, let’s try together.” You become a little more flexible, a little more intuitive.
Baby #3: Go With the Flow (And Trust Yourself)
By the time I had my third, I felt like I had stepped into this new phase of motherhood — one where I trust my gut and go with the flow. I don’t need every toy on the market. In fact, I’ve thrown out half of them. Now, when I get something, I know exactly what’s useful and what’s just clutter.
With feeding and independence? It’s like: “Here’s a spoon. Here’s your plate. Go for it.”
I’ve realized that babies are resilient, and experience is a beautiful teacher. I’m more selective, more relaxed, and much more confident in my parenting choices.
If I Had to Sum It All Up…
Motherhood evolves. You evolve.
From carefully spoon-feeding your first to letting your third dive into their own bowl — every stage has its beauty. Every child teaches you something new. And while the first-time-mom energy is full of wonder (and anxiety), the third-time-mom version of me feels grounded, capable, and still full of love — just with less stress and fewer unnecessary toys.
There’s always more to say, but these are the lessons that stand out the most right now. If I think of more, I’ll share them in another post.
Thanks for reading — and to any mama out there wondering if she’s doing it “right”: You are. Just by showing up and growing with your kids, you are.
See you next time.
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